Love is a mysterious thing. Sometimes it is hard to tell if someone truly loves you or not.
You have been together for a while now, and she still gives you the same vibes she always has. No matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to make her love you back more. Maybe it’s time to face the facts: she is not in love with you.
You are not ready to accept the obvious. But the signs are clearly there before your eyes. She is not interested in spending time with you, is always busy, or doesn’t seem to enjoy being around you. Moreover, she is critical of you or constantly argues with you.
You may be finding it hard to make up your mind about her. Your optimistic heart wants to think that the woman loves you.
You must be wondering how to know if your girlfriend doesn’t love you for sure. After all, only she knows the absolute truth.
If you are really interested in finding out the truth, here are 16 signs that she may not be into you.
16 signs that she doesn’t love you anymore
Relationship experts tell us that couples fall in and out of love with each other all through the course of a romantic relationship because so many variables have to align to make it work. However, there are instances, when the “falling out of love” step is final. No doubt this is one of the most painful experiences a person has to go through in life.
But there is nothing much you can do about it other than accept and move on. Acceptance of the situation is not easy either. Often people keep hoping that this is not true and that they can win back the woman’s love.
The truth is by doing this, you are prolonging your agony. Instead of waiting for your girlfriend to make up her mind about you and the relationship and come out clean (in other words, dump you), you can make it easier for yourself by moving away. When you get a gut feeling that something is wrong, something is usually wrong.
If you want more assurance that she doesn’t love you anymore, look out for these signs.
1. Communication with her worsens.
Communication, experts tell us, is the backbone of any healthy romantic relationship. When it starts deteriorating, it is a red flag for you.
Perhaps your girlfriend/wife has turned silent and reticent in the recent past. In fact, you find it hard to draw her into a conversation, even about inconsequential topics. She seems no longer interested in talking to you. She merely responds to you in single syllable answers and that is it.
2. She may be avoiding you.
Couples in love would want to spend every moment in each other’s company. They never seem to get enough of each other. If this is not the case with her, maybe she is not in love with you anymore.
If she were still in love with you, she would come up with innovative ways to get your attention, initiate conversations with you, spend time with you, and be interested in you and your life. She will afford you top priority except in unavoidable circumstances.
But that is not the case anymore. She is coming up with excuses not to be near you.
3. She is critical of you.
The term “blind love” means when you are in love with someone, you cannot see the faults in that person.
Now, it seems, all she can see is your faults, some even imaginary ones. It seems to you as if you cannot say or do anything right. She complains about you all the time.
If this is the case, you should first check if you have changed in some way and your new persona is antagonizing her. If so, the easiest thing for you to do is revert to your old self, because that is who she fell in love with in the first place.
If this is not a possibility, she is finding fault with you for the sake of it and nothing you can do will make her feel otherwise. She is merely finding reasons not to love you anymore.
4. She no longer respects you.
You know that she respects you from her behavior. She will be honest and authentic in her dealings with you. She will have regard for your opinions, choices, feelings, and wishes. As long as the woman loves you, she will never be unfaithful or discourteous to you.
Women tend to value respect much more than love. If you lost her respect, you can be sure that you lost her love as well.
If she is no longer in love with you, there is a good chance that she will give you the cold shoulder. She might display disinterest and apathy towards you. This may come out as unreliable, unpredictable, inattentive, and curt behavior.
5. Infatuation is not sustainable.
Maybe what you believed to be her love for you was merely infatuation. This cannot last forever. Now that she is over her infatuation phase, she is seeing the real you. That is when she doesn’t love you anymore.
Earlier when she was infatuated with you, she would pretend that she has the same preferences, viewpoints, values, and beliefs as you. This charade is not sustainable long term. Once she opens her eyes and sees the real you, she will notice that there are too many dissimilarities between the two of you that she can adjust to and condone.
The perfect image she created for you will crumble. Maybe she was never in love with you. She merely loved the idea of being in love with you. This is hard to sustain.
6. She wants to take a break.
People often talk about taking breaks from relationships to revitalize and bring back the original love and care. This may be theoretically a good suggestion, but it rarely works well in the real world.
Partners ask for a break to lessen the impact of a sudden breakup. Some even use this time to find themselves another partner before they leave one. If this is the case and she asks for a break, it is not a good sign for the relationship.
There is a good chance that she realized that she doesn’t love you anymore and is looking for a way out without too much fuss.
7. She no longer cares about you.
There may be so many reasons why she would feel this way. She underwent a major transformation and sees you in a different light. She doesn’t think you are the right one for her anymore. Or maybe she has found someone who she thinks is better suited for her.
Some people don’t invest enough time and effort to truly understand their partners in the early days. They just believe what they want to believe. Later on, the real person comes as a shock to them. This can turn them off.
Another probable reason may be that she is depressed or going through an issue not related to you. But you need to address the issue rather than ignore it. That may help you move forward.
8. She is making new male friends
If you have noticed recently that your partner seems to have too many male friends, it may be a wake-up call for your relationship.
Women always enjoy male attention. But this need not always be a romantic relationship. It can also be a platonic relationship. Attention from the opposite sex seems to boost their confidence and self-worth.
Just because she has male friends need not necessarily mean that she is looking for relationships. If she is too involved or invested in the friendships, that should raise a red flag.
Maybe she is not being unfaithful to you, but she definitely is enjoying the company. That means she is not getting what she wants from you and seeking it elsewhere.
No matter what the matter is, there is no point in you confronting her. Keep a close watch and try changing your approach with her.
9. She is seeing more of her girl friends
It’s not just new male friends that should alert you. When your partner prefers hanging out with her girlfriends to spending time with you, that should get your attention.
On its own, this is harmless. She is having her own life and there is nothing wrong with that. But she needs to keep a balance between her various activities and friendships. Moreover, if these girlfriends are toxic and feed wrong ideas to her or lead her on the wrong path, things may get difficult for you in the relationship.
You cannot do much about what is happening. As long as her attitude toward you remains unchanged, there is nothing to worry about. If this is not the case, she may be moving away from you.
10. She is retracting from your touch.
Every time you try to get cozy with her or initiate sex, she seems disinterested. She may even push you away if you force yourself on her. She may seem annoyed by your touch, even if she puts up with it. She treats sex as an unavoidable chore.
Have you noticed whether she initiates sex or touches you? If she has stopped these, your relationship is in serious trouble.
You don’t need any more evidence that she is not in love with you anymore. She is either turned off by you for whatever reasons or found love elsewhere.
11. She flirts openly with other men.
If you find her flirting with other guys, it should get your attention. Maybe this is just a phase and there is nothing more to it. But if she is cold and uninterested in you, this is a red flag for sure.
Do you have an open relationship? If so, you cannot protest about this.
If not, you must be feeling jealous and angry. If you confront her, she might accuse you of being insecure and controlling. There is no way you are going to win this game.
Pay attention to see if her behavior suggests that she has moved on and doesn’t love you anymore.
12. She is more free-spirited.
She knows what she wants and how to get it. With her show of independence, she is letting you know that she doesn’t need your support or help. She prefers her own space and wants to live life her way.
When she was in love with you, she made a show of needing and valuing your help and support, even if she never needed it. Not anymore.
Nowadays when you offer help or advice, she seems annoyed. She will twist it around and see it in a negative light. This is a clear sign that she is not into you.
13. She is no longer interested in planning the future with you.
She was the one who was keen on making plans for the future with you. Thought itself got her all excited. She was so interested in moving forward in the relationship.
But all that is water under the bridge. She has changed a lot. She has stopped talking about this altogether. Even when you bring up the topic, she seems disinterested and annoyed. This is especially clear when you want to discuss marriage with her.
Her body language and expressions clearly indicate that she is not in love with you any longer. For some reason, she still sticks with you but you can feel the tension and dislike she feels towards you.
14. She is focused on herself.
Is this something new? Was she always like this? If she has always been a selfish, self-indulgent, and egocentric person, you may not notice anything different in her. If not, this is sure to get your attention.
If this is a temporary shift, maybe she is having a difficult time and trying to overcome it with self-care and self-love. If you notice that this is lasting longer than that, it is much more serious.
You are not part of her plans anymore, either short-term or long-term. It is as if she doesn’t consider you part of her life. Obviously, she has moved on in life and is making plans without you. She doesn’t love you.
15. She is unfaithful to you.
If you have definite proof that she has been dishonest and two-timing you, there is no need to look for any more signs. She no longer loves you. It is loud and clear.
Women tend to value loyalty and fidelity much more than men. If the woman is being unfaithful, there is not much you can do about it. When she takes this step, it is a clear sign that she is not in love with you any longer.
16. You feel it in your bones.
You just know that you have lost her love. You may or may not know what triggered this change of attitude in her. In the end, this doesn’t matter.
When you get this gut feeling, you can try to have a heart-to-heart conversation with her, as long as she is ready for it. If not, you can do nothing about it either.
Try to see your relationship without the sugar coating. Avoid making excuses for her behavior. Don’t choose to stay together just because it is the easiest thing to do. If not today, you will be forced to confront the truth and in the meanwhile, you will have to endure the pain. It is not worth it.
Pay attention to your intuition if it is telling you that you have lost her love. If you want more proof, look for the signs.
Bottom line
If you are in a relationship where you feel like your partner is not in love with you, it is important to address the issue head-on. Talk to your partner about how you are feeling and see if there is anything that can be done to fix the problem. If things do not improve, spending more time on her will be futile. It may be time to move on.
Do not waste your time and energy on someone who is not willing to reciprocate your feelings. Instead, find someone who will love and appreciate you for who you are.
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