200 Juicy Questions to Get to Know Someone

You meet new people every day. Often there is no need for you to know them deeply or personally. You finish your dealings with them and move on.

This is not always the case. You would like to know some people you meet better and at a more personal level.

But you are not sure how to do this. Asking too many or inappropriate questions may make you look like a nosy parker.

What are the questions to ask someone to get to know them? How much is too much? What is appropriate? These thoughts have troubled you and kept you awake at night.

Don’t worry. Here is the answer to your dilemma.

This article offers you an exhaustive list of good questions to ask a stranger to get to know them better.

Why do you need deep questions to ask people?

When you meet someone for the first time, you get a good impression of them and would like to know more about them. While some are more forthcoming about details about themselves, some others need more prompting and probing.

You need to put in more work to get anything out of them. Especially information about themselves. The best metaphor for this situation is tooth extraction. Prying information would be similar to pulling out a difficult tooth.

Having some deep questions in your kitty is always helpful in this situation.

If you want to know someone well, there is no easy way to achieve this, other than through conversations. These are meant to be opportunities for you to share information so that you get to know more about the other person.

However, the fact remains that the other person is still a stranger to you. So, you don’t know how far you can go with your inquisitive questions. Though your intentions are good and there is no ill-will on your part, certain questions can end up antagonizing people.

You need to manage your curiosity without offending this person. After all, all you want is to know them better and get closer to them. In the early days of a relationship, it is always better to avoid certain controversial questions. Unless you know the person and you are sure that they will take it in the right spirit, these kinds of questions are best avoided.

These deep questions are perfect to ask someone to get to know them better. Again, you need to rely on your judgment and discretion to decide which among these questions suits the occasion. You may start with lighter questions and depending on the response, you may move on to deeper ones.

So, here is the long list of deep questions to get to know someone you just met.

Deep questions to ask someone

Let us begin with the not-so-deep ones.

What is your favorite activity?
Who is your hero?
What motivates you in life?
What is your favorite music/book/movie?
What makes you happy?
How would you describe yourself?
What is your favorite food?
What is your favorite vacation destination?
What is your favorite sport?
Who is your favorite person?
Are you happy with life?
What song makes you feel like dancing?
How do you maintain your calm?
Do you like to cook?
Which one is your favorite drink – tea or coffee?
Do you have pets?
Are you happy with your current job?
What is your biggest achievement?
What makes you angry?
What is the worst job you ever had?
How would you like to spend your weekend?
What is your favorite place in the world?
What is the one gadget you cannot live without?
Are you a dog or a cat person?
What is the one place on the bucket list you would like to visit?
Are you aware of what is happening around the world?
Are you interested in world events?
What is your favorite quote?
Do you envy others?
How do you wish to be remembered?

Now let’s move on to deep questions.

What is that one thing you like about yourself?
What is the one thing you can’t stand about yourself?
What is the one thing you want to change in yourself?
What makes you feel fulfilled and accomplished?
What was the best chapter in your life?
What was the worst chapter in your life?
Are you happy with how your life turned out to be?
Is what you are doing now what you dreamed of as a child?
What is the most important thing you look for in a relationship?
Which attribute is more important to you in your partner – beauty or brains?
Do you consider yourself an easygoing person?
Do you trust strangers?
Do you think marriage is relevant?
What kind of parent will you be?
Are you happy with the parenting you received?
Who is your 3 a.m. friend?
Do you think partners should part amicably and stay friends?
Do you think marriage should be for life?
Do you think you are an introvert or an extrovert?
Are you close to your parents?
Do you have a friend with whom you can discuss anything?
What are your views on online dating?
What gets you excited and alive?
What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done?
Can you describe your best friend?
Can you describe yourself?
Do you like to be spontaneous or plan everything?
Do you celebrate your birthdays?
What is that one skill you wish you had?
Are you a risk-taker or would like to play it safe?

Let’s go still deeper.

Do you believe in exclusive relationships?
What are your thoughts on cheating in relationships?
Do you think parental approval is necessary for marriage?
Have you ever lost a loved one?
If you are having a bad day, would you prefer to be left alone?
Do you think you can just be friends with the opposite sex?
Do you consider yourself aggressive and confrontational?
Have you ever broken anyone’s heart?
Has anyone broken your heart?
Would you relocate for love or would you expect this from your partner?
Do you feel thankful for the blessings in life?
Do you think people often misunderstand you?
What have you learned from your past relationships?
Do you believe in second chances?
Do you have a bucket list?
If you are granted one wish, what would that be?
Do you have regrets in life?
What is your biggest regret in life?
When your mind is idle, what are the thoughts you have?
What was your biggest mistake in life?
Do you love and respect your parents?
What is the best thing you love about your parents?
What are the qualities you look for in a best friend?
What are the qualities you expect in your partner?
Do you like to be left on your own?
How do you deal with loneliness?
Why are you still single?
What are your dreams?
How far have you progressed in achieving your dreams?
Describe the most difficult hurdles you have overcome.
Are you political?
What is wrong with the world now?
If you could change one thing in the world, what would it be?
Did you have a pleasant childhood?
How is your relationship with your siblings?
Do you think you are unique or weird?
If you could turn the clock back, what would you have done differently?
Have you ever been arrested?
Would you compromise on your dreams to accommodate that of your partner?
Are you concerned about the impression you have on others?
Are you ashamed of anything you have done in the past?
Are you happy to be in your own skin?
If given a chance, would you like to be someone else?
What was your happiest moment?
Do you cry when you watch a sad movie?
Describe a movie scene that moved you to tears.
Have you ever been confused by something you couldn’t understand?
If you are given a chance to do anything without repercussions, what would it be?
What is the craziest dream you ever had?
Have you ever experienced tears of joy?
What is the best memory of your childhood?
Are you an art lover?
What is your definition of beauty?
Do you think inner beauty is as important as physical beauty?
Do you recall an inane joke that made you laugh?
On what basis would you choose your life partner – chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional agreement, or intellectual similarity?
How important is health to you? And what are your ideas about a healthy lifestyle?
Name one behavior you cannot tolerate in your partner.
Describe the most embarrassing moment in your life.
Do you have trouble sleeping? What do you do when you can’t sleep?

And here are the deepest ones.

Have you figured out the meaning of our existence?
Do you know your mission in life?
What is your life philosophy?
Are you spiritual and religious?
Do you believe in God?
Are you happy to follow the religion you were born into?
Would you consider changing religion?
Do you know why we are here?
What are your thoughts about death?
What do you think happens to us after we die?
Do you believe in heaven and hell?
Do you believe in fate?
Do you believe that you are the master of your destiny?
Do you dream about your past life?
Do you experience disturbing dreams?
If today is your last day alive, what would you like to do today?
Do you have any idea who you were in your past life?
What is the darkest thought you ever had?
What do you fear the most in this world?
Where or when do you find it the safest?
What makes you feel sad and depressed?
What makes you feel uneasy and anxious?
Do you feel the need to be alone at times? Do you think that is healthy?
What was your lowest moment in life? Describe how you felt.
Do you lie often? Do you think it is okay to tell white lies?
Would you prefer to ignore harsh truths when they are inconvenient?
Describe a hard fact you choose to ignore.
Do you feel you can do a better job at living than what you are doing now?
How do you think you can improve your life?
Do you believe in living every moment of your life to the fullest?
Do you think you are living your life to the fullest?
Do you think you have reached your full potential?
Do you have a big secret that you haven’t told anyone?
What shapes your political views?
Do you think pure selfless love exists only in books and movies?
Do you make mistakes?
Would you apologize for your mistakes?
Do you think it is possible to change mindsets?
How do you show your love for people you care about?
Does home represent a place to live or an emotion? Explain.
Have you ever doubted your sanity? What made you do that?
Do you think life exists in other planets or galaxies?
Do you think aliens are way ahead of us and watching us?
If you are given irrefutable proof of God that goes against your belief, what would be your reaction?
Do you believe in the Big Bang theory?
Do you think humans are a superior race and should control the Universe?
Do you think that you need to experience pain to enjoy the pleasures of life?
Would you like to know about your future?
Do you want to know your date of death? What would you do with it?
Would you rather love or be loved?
Define happiness. How important is it to you?
Define peace of mind. Do you consider it important?
Do you think you are a free spirit in all senses? Explain.
Do you believe in coincidences and deja vu?
Is your first instinct to trust strangers?
If you were given a choice as to how you will die, what would you choose?
Do you think men are superior to women?
Do you consider men to be more rational than women?
Do you think women are mentally stronger than men?
Have you ever enjoyed the pain experienced by another person?
Do you think humans should learn the secret to immortality?
Do you think the rich in the world should share their wealth with the poor?
Do you think kindness, compassion, and honesty is relevant in this world?
Do you think it is okay to do what it takes to get what you want?
Do you believe in supernatural and paranormal?
If you find a stash of money, would you report it?
Do you think it is immoral to be materialistic?
Why did your last relationship end?
Do you think monogamy is unnatural?
Do you judge a book by its cover?
What would be your reaction if you were told you are adopted?
What would you prefer – rich and lonely or not-so-rich with loving family and friends?
Which one is your top priority – career, happiness, love, or family?
How would you describe honor? Do you think you are honorable?
What is your coping strategy when things are going downhill?
Are you afraid of dying? Why?
Do you think people can change?
Are you afraid of success? Why?
If you were to die now, would you be happy and fulfilled?
Do you believe in soul connections?

The only way to get to know people is by having deep conversations with them and asking insightful questions. There is no need to feel embarrassed about asking random deep questions. Because this is how you learn more about them.

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