If you’re a woman, you would agree that the intuitive skills of a woman are sharper. Maybe she needs to rely on her instincts to navigate the tricky waters of a relationship.
Relying on intuition alone for decision-making may not be a good idea as there is always a chance that it may not be right. Better combine it with signs to confirm and figure out the right course of action. This is all the more important when it comes to relationships.
It’s easy to sense and assume things and go wrong in your assessment of the situation entirely. For instance, you may feel that your partner wants to break up with you but expects you to make the move. This may be true or you may be completely off the target. If you don’t want to make a fool of yourself, look out for these signs.
This article lists some of the undeniable signs he wants you to break up with him. He may be a coward or downright cruel. Rather than analyzing the motives behind his thought process, this article focuses exclusively on the visible and hidden signs that he gives when he wants you to break up with him.
5 unmistakable signs he wants you to break up with him
Men may have their own reasons for wanting this from you. Writing it off as uncaring or spineless may be incorrect. There may be as many reasons for a man to want this as there are relationships.
Maybe men are trying to avoid the drama associated with a breakup and offer women an upper hand in the situation. When they are initiating the breakup, women may feel more in control of the situation and it would be best for all concerned.
Often men are afraid of the emotions and commotions linked with a breakup. They just want to end the relationship peacefully. This makes them think up ways to make it easier for both of you.
Without further ado, here are the signs to look out for to know that he wants you to break up with him.
1. Communication becomes shallow
Communication is one of the most important tools in a healthy relationship; whether you are making it or breaking it. A lot can be learned from the way communication happens between the couple.
At the beginning of the relationship, a man uses communication to get to know his partner and build a healthy relationship with her. When he wants to end things, he again relies on communication to let her know about his feelings. All you need to do is to keep your eyes and ears open.
The conversations with him will become shorter and shorter. It would be mostly about unavoidable matters. He will show no inclination for casual conversations. He will stick to one-word answers as much as possible.
2. He doesn’t spend much time with you
Whenever you want him, he seems to be busy. He seems to have less and less time to spare for you. His behavior will make you feel as if he is no longer interested in you. Your intuition is right on point here.
If he has always been the kind of person who is in control of his behavior and knows his mind, this behavior is a clear sign that he wants a breakup. When a man wants something, they will make time for it for sure. “Too busy” or “No time” are merely excuses to avoid you.
Just think back to how it was in the early days of the relationship. He always made time for you despite his busy schedule. Now it has changed means his priorities have changed; plain and simple.
He may want to break up with you but doesn’t want to initiate it. He is using this to trigger you into breaking up with him.
3. Disappearing intimacy
When a man is in love with you, he will let you know about his feelings through different gestures of intimacy. Such as kissing, hugging, cuddling, holding hands, sitting close together, and of course, sexual intercourse. You will experience this the most at the beginning of a healthy relationship. As the relationship settles down, this is bound to come down.
However, when intimacy is virtually non-existent in a relationship or there only for namesake or appearances, then it should raise a red flag for you. You may notice the waning intimacy but may write it off as due to a packed schedule or tiredness.
Just look deeper. Has his behavior changed with others? If you are the only one affected, then it is clear that he wants to break up. Since he is not initiating it, he is expecting you to make the move.
4. He isn’t interested in discussing the future with you
Both of you have been fond of building castles in the air from the beginning. You enjoy making plans; some of them are practical and workable and the rest are just for fun. But now all that has changed. He doesn’t want to talk about future plans with you at all. The only thing up for discussion with him nowadays is what is happening in the present moment.
Initially, you never noticed this change. But soon it became obvious to you. Every time you try to draw him into a conversation about the future together, he acts uncomfortable and evasive. You tried different approaches but nothing yielded results. The fact that he isn’t interested in discussing the future with you is clear.
Making future plans together is one of the first signs that he is attracted to you. When he doesn’t want to indulge in this, it is clear that his interest in you is waning. If he is not making the right moves to break off the relationship, he is expecting you to.
5. His behavior is turning to be passive aggressive
Maybe he has been giving you signals that he is no longer interested in you. He is hesitating to make the move to break up with you for his own reasons. He is offering you the opportunity to walk out of the relationship on your own terms.
However, you never realized this or at least didn’t do what he expected from you. This will make him feel more and more irritated. If you are still not taking the hint, his anger will boil over. His behavior will turn passive-aggressive.
To your surprise you will realize that anything you do or say will get under his skin and irritate him. How he will react to this will depend on his personality. He may use all the options available to him to lash out at you, both visibly and discreetly. This may include gaslighting, silent treatment, and criticizing or threatening you.
Certain signs that your partner may be giving off suggest he wants you to break up with him. If you notice any of the following signs, it doesn’t mean you should break up with him immediately, but it is a strong indication that there is something wrong with your relationship.
If your partner is unwilling to have an intimate conversation about your relationship’s future, he likely doesn’t see a future for the two of you together. In this case, it may be time to break up with him.