A guy meets a girl. They fall in love and it’s happily ever after.
Don’t you wish the dating game was this simple? There are more mind games involved in it than you would imagine.
Does this guy like me? Does he have a crush on me? Is he serious about it? Or is this just a pastime for him? Is he really interested in dating me? How do I feel about the whole thing?
Your head will be spinning with questions of this sort with answers hard to find. Maybe there is nothing complicated and he’s being straightforward. But maybe he is not ready to reveal his feelings and is hiding something.
How to know if someone has a crush on you?
In the early days of a relationship, it’s hard to know what your partner is thinking or feeling. This is when signs can come in handy for you. Even when you are aware of your feelings, you will be revealing the same to the world through your body language and other signs.
This article will help you figure out some of the sure signs a guy is crushing on you. Armed with crush facts about guys, you can plan your next move in the dating game.
How to tell if someone has a crush on you?
To answer that question, it is better to answer this one first – What do guys do when they have a crush? This will give you clues to signs a guy is crushing on you.
When a guy has a crush on you, his behavior may seem strange to you. At times, the signals he is sending to you may get tangled up and seem mixed and confusing. It’s easy to misunderstand from his gestures that he isn’t interested in you. It takes a bit of intuition and insight to decipher the signs in the right way.
The trouble with crushing is that you don’t know each other too well. You feel a romantic connection but aren’t sure what to expect from the relationship. These signs may help you get a better idea of what he is thinking about you.
1. He’s nervous and averts his eyes
You can actually see sweat beads forming on his forehead. He’s uncomfortable and fidgety. He looks everywhere else except at you. When you try to talk to him, he acts like a cornered rat, eager to escape. All the vibes you get from him are negative. It is as if he wants to run away from you and hide.
He just wants to make a good impression on you and this makes him anxious. The rest of his behavior is a fallout of his anxiety. Don’t take his behavior literally.
2. He’s jealous when other men are mentioned
If you mention your date last weekend or one you are going with the coming Friday, he won’t be amused for sure. You may go on and on about the “He said… I said…” spiel. If you watch him closely enough, you will see how annoyed and angry he is. He just wants you to stop.
All he is interested in is talking to you about things you have in common. He just wants to highlight that you have so much in common and likes to build on it.
3. He laughs nervously
Whether you are talking or he is, he will laugh weirdly at everything. It is more like a titter or an uneasy giggle. This is a continuation of his nervous behavior. He’s feeling self-conscious about creating a good impression on you. He’s freaking out and this comes out as nervous laughter.
When your guy giggles hysterically, you know that something is up.
4. He backtracks when you stand your ground
The guy is crushing on you and is in no mood to argue or fight with you. He may have made his stand clear earlier, but when you voice your dissent, he will soften his stand or even take back what he said earlier. You may find this disconcerting and think of him as spineless. But for all you know, he is soft-pedaling only because he has a crush on you.
Maybe you should make discreet inquiries about him to make sure that he is not a coward.
5. He spazzes when you go silent
Whether you are having a conversation with him in person, over the phone, or via text messages, if you suddenly stop saying anything, he spazzes. He will say all sorts of incoherent things and act awkward and clumsy. In short, he doesn’t know what to say but can’t stop himself from saying something. So he says whatever comes to his mind. This can be disastrous.
All you need to do is to guide the conversation in the right direction with the right questions and comments.
6. He goes into overdrive to impress you
When he has a crush on you, there is nothing that he will not do to make him look like a superhero in your eyes. He may even throw caution to the winds and do dangerous and stupid stunts to get your attention. All his antics may make you think that he has a death wish and he will stop at nothing.
Before it gets too daring, you may have to step in. All you need to do is give him the kind of attention he expects from you. His stunts will stop on their own.
7. He pulls your leg incessantly
The guy may still be nervous but he tries to mask it by going on the offensive. Since the guy is crushing on you, all that he wants is to be near you and interact with you. This may seem to you like childish and immature behavior but he feels this will help break the ice between the two of you. Moreover, this will give him a chance to talk to you without admitting that he has a crush on you.
This behavior is so typical among middle schoolers but a guy with a crush will also find it apt.
8. He behaves like a yo-yo
When a guy is crushing on you, he isn’t sure of anything. That makes it hard for him to be consistent in his behavior. One minute, he will try to lure you, the next moment, he will push you away. This is a sign of conflicting emotions and wavering thoughts in his mind. Moreover, he isn’t sure of your reaction as well. That can make matters really worse.
If you give him the green signal, it can help matters a lot.
9. If asked about his feelings for you, he won’t admit it
When a guy is crushing on you, he will not readily admit it. He plays for time to know how you feel about him. He doesn’t want to look foolish, revealing his feelings when you consider him a friend. But if you confront him and ask him straight out how he feels about you, he will blush and feel flustered. Almost always, he will deny it.
If he isn’t interested in you, there is no need for him to feel embarrassed.
10. He plays the role of the cool dude
That is a very guy thing to do. He does all sorts of things to make him look cool in your eyes. He demonstrates his skills and knowledge, flaunts his popularity, or lets you know that he frequents all the cool places in the neighborhood. He may even resort to name-dropping to give himself the heads-up.
This is another middle schooler’s tactic to amp up their own value in the eyes of others; here he does this for your benefit. He just wants to impress you.
11. His friends pull his leg when you’re around
The signs of a guy crushing on you are there in the behavior of his friends too. His friends may tease him when he is around you and vice versa. This shows that they know what’s going on between the two of you, even if they don’t tell it out loud.
This can be an indication that your guy is equally interested in you, and he doesn’t mind the fact that his friends know about it. This could be a sure sign of his interest.
12. You get great feedback about him from his friends
If you really want to find out whether your guy has a crush on you, the best people who could give you pointers are his friends. If his friends speak positive and glowing things about him, then it’s a sure sign that he has feelings for you.
Friends know more than anybody else when something is cooking between two people and they will give you signs which can help you know what the guy is up to.
13. He wants his friends to like you and you to like them
A guy may have a crush on you, and he wants to make sure that you like him. But more than that, he also wants his friends to like you as much as they like him. He will try to be around them while you’re with them so that they can get a chance to know you better.
This is a sure sign of his desire to be in your life and make you feel more comfortable around him. It’s also a gesture that shows he respects the opinions of his friends about you as well.
14. He wants you to think highly of him
The signs of a guy with a crush on you are there in his behavior. He will try to be the best version of himself when you’re around so that you can think highly of him. He wants to make sure that he stands out from other guys and leaves an impression on your mind.
He may even do things that can make him look good and admirable in your eyes. This is his way of getting closer to you without showing it openly.
15. He pays special attention to the conversations
If a guy has a crush on you, he will pay keen attention to whatever conversation you’re having with each other. Everything you say will be of interest to him, and he will make an effort to remember it.
He will also try to bring up topics that can keep the conversation going so that you can spend more time together.
16. He can’t take his eyes off you
If a guy has feelings for you, he won’t be able to take his eyes off of you. He will look into your eyes more than usual as if he is trying to search your inner thoughts and feelings.
He will also be looking around you to see what or who else is in your vicinity. This can be seen as sign of protection and love, as he doesn’t want anyone else to steal you away from him.
17. You often find him entering your personal space
Another sure sign of a guy having feelings for you is when he often enters your personal space. He may come close to you, hug you, or even hold your hand without feeling awkward about it.
This shows that he trusts and feels comfortable with you, which can be sign of his developing feelings for you. It also indicates that he wants to be physically closer to you, which is a clear sign of affection.
What makes a guy develop a crush?
It’s not always easy to pinpoint exactly why a guy may develop a crush on you. It could be because of your personality, physical appearance, intelligence, or humor.
Whatever the reason may be, it is important to remember that there are signs which can help you identify if a guy has feelings for you. With some keen observation, you can figure out whether or not a guy is crushing on you.
All signs point to the fact that he likes you, so all that’s left is for you to take the plunge and see what happens next!
What are the 3 types of crushes?
- The infatuation crush is a short-term attraction to someone who you find attractive but may not actually know very well.
- The romantic crush is when you have strong feelings of affection and admiration for someone and would like to pursue a relationship with them.
- The friendship crush is when you admire someone’s personality and qualities but do not necessarily have romantic feelings for them.
How long does a guy’s crush last?
The duration of a guy’s crush varies from person to person. Depending on factors like emotional maturity, feelings for the other person, and life circumstances, a guy’s crush can last anywhere from a few weeks to years. Ultimately, it is up to the individual when they decide whether or not they want to act on their feelings and pursue a relationship.
How to know if he has a crush on you?
When a guy has a crush on you, he will be nervous around you and try to project himself as the perfect partner for you. If you keep your eyes and ears wide open, you will easily get to know what he is thinking and feeling about you. He will find it hard to hide his feelings for you.
Another way to recognize the guy’s special interest in you is to notice the difference in his behavior with you. He may do all kinds of things to grab your attention while he will not be taking so much effort with others.
A crush is short-lived; usually lasts for a few weeks to a couple of months. Either way, you will know how it pans out soon enough.