{"id":18373,"date":"2022-07-06T22:20:00","date_gmt":"2022-07-06T22:20:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.abundancenolimits.com\/?p=18373"},"modified":"2023-03-12T04:03:10","modified_gmt":"2023-03-12T04:03:10","slug":"signs-a-guy-doesnt-know-what-he-wants","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.abundancenolimits.com\/signs-a-guy-doesnt-know-what-he-wants\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Signs A Guy Doesn’t Know What He Wants"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Have you ever been in a relationship with a man who is not much into you?<\/b><\/p>\n

He is spending more time away from you and doesn\u2019t show any inclination to come back to you or be with you. He prioritizes his friends over you. His eyes are still roving and stray like a lost sheep. <\/p>\n

All these and more often make you wonder whether he is serious about the relationship with you. However, he doesn\u2019t break up with you and leaves you hanging. Does he really know what he wants in life in general and from you and the relationship? Does he understand the meaning of a committed relationship?<\/p>\n

That was just a rhetorical question. For a guy like that the answer is obviously and emphatically no. But again, you are also unable to make up your mind about him. He has been nice and kind to you whenever he is with you. There is nothing you find in him that makes you dislike him. So, it is safe to say that you like him. <\/p>\n

If it were in your hands, you would have taken the relationship to the next level. Maybe even exchanged vows. But you are exactly where you started. At times you even think that you have taken a few steps backward. Neither is he taking any initiative to go forward in the relationship nor is he revealing his plans for the future. <\/p>\n

Somehow your instinct is telling you that you are clinging on to something that doesn\u2019t belong to you and it is time for you to let go. You are confused as to your next move and sometimes even feel angry at yourself and everyone else.<\/p>\n

If you are in a similar situation and are looking for guidance, read on. This article lists some of the easy-to-spot signs revealing that your guy doesn\u2019t know what he wants in life. Once you know for sure that this is the case, you can make your move.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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Signs telling your guy isn\u2019t clear about what he wants<\/h2>\n

Being with a guy who doesn\u2019t know his mind can be frustrating. Whenever he is with you, he is nice to you. But more often than not, he doesn\u2019t show the inclination to be with you and is away enjoying his time with friends. <\/p>\n

This makes you wonder whether he is interested in you and the relationship at all. If he is, why is he not spending more time with you like other loved-up and smitten men? Is there any future for you with him?<\/p>\n

You can look out for these signs to make sure that he is not serious about you or the relationship. If he is displaying any of these signs, you should walk out of the relationship and not waste any more time hanging on to the hope that he will come back to you.<\/p>\n

1. He is hesitant to define your relationship.<\/h3>\n

This is one of the most obvious signs. You have been together for months now but you don\u2019t see any progress since day one. Most probably, the relationship remains platonic. <\/p>\n

You have kissed and spent time with each other. But you haven\u2019t considered sex. At times, you are unsure whether he is your friend or lover. Whenever you try to have this conversation, he brushes it aside.<\/p>\n

Clearly, he isn\u2019t ready for commitment and a committed relationship with you<\/a>. He enjoys spending time with you and doesn\u2019t want to get more serious. He may be feeling that if he makes a commitment and assigns a label to this relationship, he will end up with something he doesn\u2019t want. He doesn’t want to be tied down.<\/p>\n

In his own way, he is considerate. He is indeed unwilling to discuss your concerns or answer your queries. But he doesn\u2019t want to give this relationship a semblance of commitment and give you false hope. He is okay with things as they are.<\/p>\n

If he is sure that you are the right partner for him, he would have gotten serious a long time back. Since he is not ready for that, the only conclusion that can be drawn from this situation is that he doesn\u2019t know what he wants.<\/p>\n

2. He is away with friends most of the time.<\/h3>\n

He has made it clear to you that he values his friends above everyone else, including you. When it comes to spending time with friends, he never allows anything to come in-between or spoil it. He is a man\u2019s man through and through. <\/p>\n

He always has something lined up with his friends. Whenever you want to go out or spend time with him, he has already made plans with his friends. He refuses to cancel any of them to fit you in. He never seems to have any spare time to be with you.<\/p>\n

One top reason for this is that his friends are all single and always seem to have free time to spend with each other. You are rarely invited to join them in their outings. Anyway, you aren\u2019t keen on this proposition as going out with a bunch of single men is boring and tiresome.<\/p>\n

Your instincts are telling you that he is spending time with his friends to avoid you and getting into a serious relationship with you. Maybe you are right.<\/p>\n

3. He continues to go out with other women.<\/h3>\n

This is the worst and saddest of all the signs. He is still active on dating sites and maintains his relationship status as \u201csingle\u201d on social media platforms. Not just this, he goes out on dates with other women.<\/p>\n

However, you can say to his credit that he doesn\u2019t hide his activities. He even stands you up to go out on dates and is upfront about it. He may even fill you up on what transpired on these dates.<\/p>\n

Clearly, he is not ready to be exclusive with you as he is still unsure about long-term prospects with you. He wants to keep his options open and play the field. <\/p>\n

If you want to look at the positive side, you can feel good about the fact that he is honest. But is honesty the only trait you would like to see in your partner? It\u2019s time you made the call.<\/p>\n

4. He is not open about his relationship with you.<\/h3>\n

You have been with him for months now and he has not introduced you to his friends or family. You are not sure why he is keeping you a secret from the world. You often wonder whether he is embarrassed about you and doesn\u2019t want to be linked to you.<\/p>\n

When you try to bring your relationship to light in front of his family or friends, he will cover up your actions and take you aside, only to ask you to shut up. When you confront him, he will give you commitment-free replies like \u201cNothing much\u201d, \u201cJust like that\u201d, or \u201cThe time is not right\u201d.<\/p>\n

When you pay attention and analyze his actions, you conclude that he is ashamed to be in a relationship with you. You blame yourself for being not good enough for him and try not to feel offended.<\/p>\n

What do your instincts tell you? Do you see a future for you with him? <\/p>\n

5. He isn\u2019t interested in you or your life.<\/h3>\n

He doesn\u2019t include you in his plans or most of his activities. To make matters worse, he doesn\u2019t bother about what you are doing with your life. He is not familiar with your friends or family because he hasn\u2019t met them despite your best efforts. <\/p>\n

He also doesn\u2019t mind you going on dates with other men. In fact, you feel as if he is forcing you. He doesn\u2019t expect anything from you and is irritated when you voice your expectations from him.<\/p>\n

He is content and comfortable with where he is in the relationship and doesn\u2019t want to change anything about it. Just the fact that he is unwilling to go public with your relationship shows that he doesn\u2019t know what he wants.<\/p>\n

6. He doesn\u2019t include you in his plans.<\/h3>\n

Be it short-term plans or long-term, you don\u2019t feature in any of them. <\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t take you as his plus one to events. He always projects the image of being single with everyone. You have never gone out on a date with him. You meet up either at your place or his when no one else is around.<\/p>\n

You have never heard him use the words \u201cwe\u201d or \u201cus\u201d to denote the two of you. It\u2019s always \u201cI\u201d or \u201cme\u201d. Every time he talks about his future, you fervently hope that you will be mentioned in it, only to be disappointed again. <\/b><\/p>\n

Including you in his plans is a confirmation of your couple’s status. As he doesn\u2019t know what he wants from you or the relationship, he takes the easy way out of it. <\/p>\n

7. He doesn\u2019t have time for you.<\/h3>\n

Everyone has commitments to fulfill but he seems to have too many of them that he doesn\u2019t have any time left for you.<\/p>\n

When you are together, you get the feeling that he is on the edge and ready to bolt. His calendar always seems to be choked with back-to-back appointments. Seeing him once a week or even once a month seems to be a big deal.<\/p>\n

You may start wondering what kind of a relationship this is. After marriage, often couples take each other for granted and let things slide. But when dating, if this is how it is, what kind of future are you going to have?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s very clear why he is doing this to you. He isn\u2019t sure about you and so, you are low down on his priority list. This means he is not making special efforts to make space for you in his life.<\/p>\n

What are your options to deal with the situation?<\/h2>\n

When he doesn\u2019t know what he wants in life, it may reflect on you and your relationship in numerous ways. However, it need not necessarily mean that he doesn\u2019t want you in life. If this is the case, he could\u2019ve broken up with you a long time back.<\/p>\n

If he says he doesn’t know what he wants, you can always sit down, discuss the options available, and help him figure out what he really wants. You can always bail out if you are not fitting in with his scheme of things. <\/p>\n

If you are considering waiting for some more time to see if he is changing his approach, you, most probably, would be in for a disappointment. Don\u2019t expect the confusion to vanish one fine day and he will be the kind of partner you want him to be. The likelihood of this happening is very low. <\/p>\n

Your best option is to walk out of the relationship without wasting any more time. But if you are reluctant to do this and want to give him one more chance, here are some suggestions for you to consider.<\/p>\n