{"id":26433,"date":"2023-01-11T10:27:58","date_gmt":"2023-01-11T10:27:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.abundancenolimits.com\/?p=26433"},"modified":"2023-03-11T09:03:23","modified_gmt":"2023-03-11T09:03:23","slug":"psychology-behind-cheating-and-lying","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.abundancenolimits.com\/psychology-behind-cheating-and-lying\/","title":{"rendered":"The Psychology Behind Cheating And Lying"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Cheating and lying go hand in hand. You cannot cheat without lying and when you lie, you are cheating.<\/p>\n

However, there is a subtle difference between cheating and lying. A cheater is someone who ignores and breaks the rules, while a liar is someone who doesn\u2019t tell the truth.<\/p>\n

We are very much aware that cheating and lying are wrong according to all rule books. But we still cheat and lie. Why? What is the psychology behind cheating and lying?<\/p>\n

Both cheating and lying are behavioral patterns and are closely linked to some thought patterns. Infidelity is considered one of the most compelling reasons for breakups. Often when a relationship breaks up because of infidelity, it is written off as \u201cIf it happens, it happens\u201d. We rarely pause to think about why it happened. <\/p>\n

By knowing the thought processes of cheaters and liars, we can get to the bottom of this. What motivates a partner to stray, betray the trust placed on them, and seek intimacy elsewhere? <\/p>\n

This article tries to understand and unravel the psychology behind cheating and lying. Knowing the reasons can help the betrayed partner come to terms with the situation instead of blaming themselves for the breakup. <\/p>\n

Psychology of cheaters and liars<\/h2>\n

1. It \u201cjust happens\u201d<\/h3>\n

Though this may sound clich\u00e9, it is the truth. Even a straight-thinking monogamous person, when they find themselves in certain situations, may be tempted to cheat. And if the opportunity presents itself, cheat they will. But remember, this is not to justify their actions or to absolve them of the blame.<\/p>\n

When a person gets an opportunity to stray without apparent consequences, they may find the situation too tempting. Typically, before cheating, a person will weigh the risk factors of being caught cheating. When the risk is minimal, they go ahead with it, even if there is always a possibility of being discovered and brought to book. <\/p>\n

2. Infidelity need not always be about sex<\/h3>\n

Sex is one of the major constituents of a romantic relationship, and its role in cheating and infidelity cannot be ignored. But it is not the only contributing factor in all instances. Other factors like emotional and intellectual needs may not be met by the primary partner. So the cheating partner will seek an affair partner to meet these needs.<\/p>\n

Ideally, both partners should evolve as individuals at the same pace in all aspects of life. When it doesn\u2019t happen this way and they find themselves at different levels and wavelengths, they may not be able to relate well with each other. This is a trigger for cheating.<\/p>\n

3. A cheater may continue to love the partner<\/h3>\n

A person may cheat due to various factors. Unless they are already out of love with their primary partner, cheating need not alter this. Even after cheating, the cheater may continue to be in love. <\/p>\n

By cheating, a cheater obviously is betraying the trust placed on them by their partner. Even if they are aware of what they have done, a cheater may not fall out of love with their partner. It may seem strange that a cheater can continue to love their partner and still stray outside the relationship. The reasons for cheating may be issues related to commitment or body image.<\/p>\n

4. Cheating doesn\u2019t mean an unhappy relationship<\/h3>\n

A person may stray even when they are in a happy relationship. The typical image of a cheater ingrained in our minds, thanks to movies and media, is that of someone unhappy and unsatisfied in their relationship with their primary partner. This need not always be the case.<\/p>\n

Even someone totally in love with their partner may stray because of their inherent polygamous trait or apathy toward commitment in the relationship. Often their own inferior body image may make a person forget everything and plunge headlong into adultery with an affair partner.<\/p>\n

5. A lack or denial of sex need not translate to cheating<\/h3>\n

We automatically assume that a partner trapped in a sexless relationship will cheat. This is not always true. Though sex is indeed one of the driving factors in a relationship, it is not the only one. It\u2019s common for a person to cheat when they are experiencing emotional distress or if they feel they aren\u2019t getting enough respect in the relationship.<\/p>\n

Cheating may happen for reasons other than sex or sexual pleasure. A lack or denial of sex can be a good trigger for infidelity and raises the chances of straying. Despite having a sexually fulfilling relationship, if a partner\u2019s emotional needs are not met, they may seek an affair partner and commit adultery. <\/p>\n

6. A cheater may not want to leave their partner<\/h3>\n

This is not what a partner wants to achieve through cheating. In fact, they cheat because they want to stay in the relationship but at the same time get what they lack in the relationship. If they leave the partner and end the relationship before hooking up with an affair partner, it won\u2019t be called cheating.<\/p>\n

Most partners who commit adultery never even consider the option of ending their relationship. They use adultery as a means to supplement their needs. They feel that they need this for them to be happy and content. So they cheat.<\/p>\n

7. Cheating often happens unplanned <\/h3>\n

Infidelity does not always follow a plan. It may be spontaneous when the opportunity presents itself to the participants. This is more accurate for those in happy and committed relationships. They never actually looked out for ways to cheat and whom to hook up with before the actual act. They never made elaborate plans to commit adultery.<\/p>\n

This often happens in happy, committed couples whose relationship is on a downward path. The reasons can be anything from less time spent with each other to low libido. When they find excitement and attention with an affair partner, they feel the urge to go after it.<\/p>\n

Psychological facts about cheating man<\/h2>\n

Though there is no discrimination between men and women when it comes to cheating, their reasons and methods of cheating vary vastly. Here are some psychological facts about cheating man.<\/p>\n